01.18.07

The education system: what can be done for males?

Posted in correspondence, education at 8:06 pm by principalquattrano

Hello Goddess (writes Brian),

I’ve just come across your site and I am intrigued and impressed. Having listened to a recording of yours on Keen, I know this is a mix of fantasy and reality but I’m going to pose a few serious questions/comments in the hope that you respond in earnest.

I became interested in the plight of boys’ education while reading a several page spread in a weekend newspaper back in 2000. It dealt with the educational symposium held in Seattle that year. The focus was on boys’ inability to compete with the girls intellectually. One solution proffered was to have boys enter school a year later than girls, which would help to offset their disadvantage of being less mature than their female classmates.

While I am sure it would be advantageous not to start students who are not yet physically or emotionally ready for school, a study has shown that holding back students, even at the start of schooling, will make them more likely to drop out before completing high school. The effect was attributed to the students being older than their peers. One could only guess whether holding back most or all boys would have that same effect.

Another issue might be how it was determined which students were allowed to start school and which were held off. Currently students who are of racial minorities or small for their age are disproportionally held back for this reason. Could we even trust schools to impartially make these decisions?

My feeling is that students who are not ready should not be forced to start school, where they will fail and then either be held back or labeled for intervention. But students who start late can easily catch up – all you have to do is put them in a class where they only teach them important stuff and eliminate all the crap. That should cut out about two thirds of the curriculum in the first couple of years. Any student should be able to catch up.

Another suggestion we read about more and more frequently is to segregate the classrooms by sex. I personally am opposed to this because some males, not many to be sure but some males will be able to learn alongside their female classmates and segregating them outright into an all male class will restrict their learning potential.

This is true. But I think a better reason why males should not be segregated is because doing so intensifies annoying alpha-dominance behaviors. Most of the studies that show that males (or females) do better when segregated have examined a few carefully chosen elite institutions. It’s the quality of education – class size, standards, teachers – that makes the difference in schools like this, not the gender mix of the students.

While I’m at it, I’d like to put in a plug toward ending educational experimenting and do a little reality check. There’s nothing wrong with a little experimentation, as far as I’m concerned. The problem is that programs are implemented based on untested “theories” – that are little more than wishful thinking. There is never any followup to see if the implementation has the intended effect.

Your approach seems to be the most pragmatic. You recognize that males require structure and discipline because we are too easily distracted. I wonder what your thoughts are regarding the males’ inferior multi-tasking abilities. All these reports concerning how women can manage multiple thoughts simultaneously while men can only manage one thought at a time. Do you think that may contribute to men losing sight of our priorities? Maybe that has something to do with us being drawn back to thoughts of sex every 8 seconds.

Everything I’ve read about this indicates it is one of the talents that females excel at because they are biologically responsible for raising children, regardless of current trends in family structure. Successful childrearing requires multi-tasking. Back when “successful” childrearing meant “survival”, multi-tasking genes of females were passed from one generation to the next in that way.

This has been less important for males. They often perform only one task at a time, which has made it possible for them to excel at that thing. Just remember that traditionally the man who was at the top of his field always had a woman behind him managing every detail of his life, so he could concentrate on his work.

I am also curious to know your approach regarding recalcitrant young females. You recognize that girls respond to intellectual stimulation whereas males need to be trained like animals. Does this mean that discipline should be meted out differently for girls and boys for the same infraction? Discussing her attitude might illicit the most positive response from a girl but a boy needs to be spanked or paddled (repeatedly?) before he is willing or capable of receiving instruction?

Do you want reality? There are some girls who respond well to structure. Unfortunately, many teachers consider that certain subjects are too hard for girls. Girls who get this message find they can get by with pity grades from teachers who have no idea they are even doing this. It starts a trip down the slippery slope. One thing leads to another, and you end up with a large number of students who have decided that anything academic is too hard or too boring to bother with.

Finally, I’m hoping you’re considering producing lessons for males on mp3.

It would be an interesting concept to think about in the future.

Thank you for taking the time to read this Goddess. I hope your site is one that will grow.

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09.17.06

Letter from an admirer

Posted in correspondence at 4:52 pm by principalquattrano

Subject: reflections
From: tom
Date: Sat, September 16, 2006 1:38 am
To: angela@principalquattrano.com
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Angela,

I just found your “Principal” site yesterday.

Except for my name, everything else is true, here. I am 56 yrs old, happily married, and an insurance agent. I’m 6′ tall, 185 lbs. Decent shape. Full head of light brown hair.

My wife is the coolest (she hasn’t seen this letter, but I would not hesitate to show her). I’m 10 yrs older than her, and we were both raised in traditional male-led homes. We have a very equal relationship, never arguing, very supportive of each other.

We are both into sexual role-playing, but I have not found any website that actually captures our fantasy. Briefly it is as follows: although we live a very normal-looking, traditional” life-style, my wife’s pet name for me is “dumbass” and nearly every day she tells me how inferior I am to her, to our girls, and to all women everywhere. Several times she has said to me in front of our 3 grown daughters, “Get your dick over here” (they just laugh and recently the oldest — now 26 — said that same thing to me. Occasionally, the girls will order me around, but that is not usual. We are careful about this. Aside from a bit of kidding around, our girls are not involved in our sex life.)

I was convinced years ago that women have it over men, and girls over boys — just as you say. And I have actively taught this to our girls.

In school (HS & college) I competed against girls and routinely came in 2nd or worse. My college graduating class had 200 people: the top 7 spots were all women, and 67 of the top 100 spots were women. I was number 41 behind 29 women. This did not bother me, it was just school.

For years I worked in banking for, with, and under women 10-15 years younger than me and I competed with them daily. I’m a fairly smart guy and thought I’d have an easy time climbing the ladder there (after all, they were just women!). What I found to my utter shock was I couldn’t keep up with them. I remember once (at 35) I was up for promotion against a 24 year old woman. We stood side by side in front of a panel of two women and a man when she received the nod. I was demoralized. I spent the next 30 minutes in the rest room jacking off. That was the first time I actually realized that my dick was not a symbol of strength at all, but a symbol of my real inferiority.

I also spent about 15 years teaching college (from my age 35 to 52). Although there are certainly exceptions, women are far superior to men in nearly all aspects of educational awareness, readiness, fervor, ability, performance, and accomplishment. You are exactly right about who is best suited for present and future leadership.

As I have grown older, jacking off has become an important way of life for me. It reminds me who I really am. For me it is completely an outward sign of my inherent inferiority. I do this 4-5 times every day, sometimes in the car. My wife is very much in on this. She has me on my knees jacking off in the closet or in the kitchen and every once in a while just outside the front door of our house on my knees facing her while I repeat to her that I am disposable, that she runs the house, and that I am inferior to her and the girls. Of course, this is not
just fantasy, it is actually the truth.

I am not motivated much by typical bdsm stuff. But I am easily captivated by women who know how to put me in my place as among the planet’s inferior male population. (I don’t like “bitches,” just strong, confident women who know the truth about men) When that happens, I will, as soon as I am able, find a place to safely masturbate, reminding myself that women are really the ones in charge. As I am sure will be no surprise to you, I am right now naked and jacking off as I always will be when reading anything you write. Please don’t be offended by this, as some women are. Please understand, I intend this as an honor to you: I acknowledge you and your sex as the primary sex. I live only in your shadow.

I appreciate your honest style of writing, and certainly you are very cute. But the point here is that I want, actually, to encourage you. What you are doing helps me and other males to accept our place as the second sex: we are important, but not as important; capable, but not as capable. For me, when I masturbate, I am surrendering. Actually, I think that is more true for men that is commonly recognized or admitted. Doing it, I experience powerful waves of feelings of inferiority flowing through my entire self — almost to the point of needing to
worship, praise, and honor you. — as my maker, I suppose, I don’t really know. It is somewhat strange.

I hope you are not offended. If you are, I apologize and I will not bother you again. However, my comments are intended as sincere praise and adoration for your inherent prowess and superior nature.

I have attached a few pictures. Again, this is intended as a sign of sincere submission to you and to all women. I’ve also included a card I carry in my wallet (front and back). You can use any of these on your website, if you wish, including this letter.

Thank you for your efforts. And thank you for listening to me now.

Thanks,
Tom

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