02.03.07
For those of you who think you want to be slaves…
If you’ve read everything I ever wrote (haha) you probably realize that I have very specific ideas about what a slave or submissive is and is not, and that most of the males I have chatted with only meet the guidelines in their dreams. They fail to understand that being a male submissive or slave to a dominant woman is not about some hot chick in a pvc corset spending all of her time fulfilling their pornographic fantisies. If that’s what they want, they need to hire a pro and pay her for her time.
I can hear some of you whimpering, NOoo…“I need the connection, it must be a girlfriend, a wife…” Who does all the things to you that you have on your list, right? You just haven’t found the right girl who wants to do all those things and exactly those things and doesn’t expect anything in return from you but the opportunity to fulfil your fantasies…
Get real. If you’re for real, you should be able to read the blog entry below and identify with it. If you can’t, you’re not a slave or a submissive. Mind you, that’s okay. Maybe you’re just some kind of bottom. Maybe you just like “femdom” porn, like Men in Pain, eh?
It’s all right to be what you are. True servitude is not for everybody. Just recognize the difference between fantasy and reality. It will definitely ease your search for happiness if you’re searching for something that can be found.
Publus said,
February 3, 2007 at 10:41 am
If a dominant person seeks a “slave” who meets that person’s “very specific ideas about what a slave or submissive is and is not,” then isn’t that dominant person making essentially the same mistake as the submissive person who seeks a dominant partner who “does all the things on [the submissive's] list?”
angela said,
February 4, 2007 at 7:20 am
Yes, definitely. When you approach a potential relationship without taking into consideration anything but preconceived notions about what the other person ought to be, you are setting yourself up for failure and pain. It is only by chance that such a relationship should work. If either party is unfulfilled by the arrangement, eventually there will be a breakup.
There certainly are dominants who do not take their submissives’ feelings into consideration, who do not allow that they even have feelings. The dominant may be planning on releasing the subs when they fail to measure up later, not caring about the impact this may have on the subs after a sincere emotional investment on their part, or the dominant may be planning on keeping the sub for only a short time from the start, just to be cruel. She may be planning on causing him permanent physical harm, then letting him go. (Think about the “money mistress” who brags about financially ruining her clients.) The potential slave needs to know more about a dominant before making what might be considered a lifetime commitment akin to marriage.
Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee got married a week after meeting. Did anyone but them seriously think it was going to be permanent?
I view the lack of a screening process on the part of a dominant as being lazy and inconsiderate. Just as in the real world, I view with suspicion any business that is always hiring because they can’t seem to keep employees, I view the Mistress who is always seeking submissives the same way.
I am a firm believer in getting to know a person better in order to find out if you are intellectually compatible, whether in marriage or any sort of D/s relationship. Submission does not equal stupidity. Of course I speak from the perspective of the dominant, but guys… watch out for your own interests.
Richie said,
February 23, 2007 at 3:35 am
You overlooked something about slavery.God wanted an end to bondage and slavery.Which is one of the reasons God wrote His Ten Commandments on Mount Sinai.The most serious Commandment is the 1st-Thou Shalt Not Have No Other gods Before Me.Too many women wanted to treated as goddessess and expect to be worshipped and make slaves out of men.Too many men want to make women slaves and expect to be called lords.Fantasy or Reality makes no difference only God is to be worshipped.
angela said,
February 23, 2007 at 10:56 am
The ten commandments had nothing to do with ending slavery. They were about the proper behavior of the ancient Hebrew nation. Slavery is not mentioned in the ten commandments. It was an integral part of the ancient world. The ten commandments have never been used as a justification for ending slavery. The bible itself was used as justification for slavery right up until the Civil War.
In fact, there is more than one version of the ten commandments in the bible, and they are different. There are many other commandments in the old testament that we nowadays utterly ignore. If you examine them as they were originally intended to be understood, you will find the meaning is very different from what many people interpret them to mean nowadays.
For other of god’s commandments, it must be that it is a matter of inconvenience to bother to follow them. Do you wear blended fabrics? Why? god has forbidden this!
In any case, it is necessary to reinterpet whatever part of the bible you happen to be reading in order to give it the meaning you wish it had.
The bible is a document written thousands of years ago, composed of legends, myths, dreams, allegorical stories, and history reinterpreted to favor those who were writing it down.
If you’re not into BDSM, then don’t do it! But then why are you here reading my blog?