10.09.07
On BDSM and diversity of desires and relationships
From the blog Inside the mind of Gloria Brame comes an entry Who is Elise Sutton and why does it matter?.
I never put much thought into the possibility that much of the “femdom” literature – especially the “how-to” stuff – might be the product of the minds of male submissives, but yes, it makes a lot of sense.
In fact, I was once approached by a guy who was looking for a front woman to help him start an internet business selling training manuals to women who wanted to turn their husbands into obedient submissives. Nothing ever came of it, at least partly thanks to the fact that he seemed to have forgotten within a couple of months. I guess he had moved on to the next fantasy.
Anyone who’s read much of what I write is familiar with the fact that I don’t like to be told what to like and what to want. After years of bombardment by would-be online subs (Oh, noez! Do not want!), I’ve finally found someone else who feels like I do. In other words, we are not all the same. Every dominant woman does not want the same things, and does not fit in the same cookie cutter mold, any more than every vanilla woman wants the exact same things.
But I don’t think I can get away from classifying submissives in my own mind into “real” subs and “the other kind”. I’m not going to tell somebody else what to be, but if they cannot accept that I am a unique human being with my own needs and desires, then as far as I’m concerned, they’re just looking for interactive porn.
Especially if they want me to provide that standardized menu of services for free. That’s just living in a fantasy.
Move along. Nothing for you here.